As I sometimes joke to my wife about whether I would stray or not: “Even if I had the inclination, I don’t have the energy.” Fact is, I am too busy to even think about dalliances, let alone act on them. But I also realize that could be a temptation for me, so I am careful not to get myself in temptation situations, especially with a co-worker. (Frankly, because I’m a boss that goes even beyond faithfulness reasons to realizing you could get sued and/or fired for sexual harassment if things go south.)And I am careful to wear my wedding ring at all times. I figure that the only women I would want to have a relationship with (hypothetically, if I weren’t married) would be those who would respect the ring in the first place, and those who ignore the ring aren’t women I would want to get involved with in any event. (In other words, if they are willing to ignore boundaries in order to get to you, it’s likely they will later ignore boundaries to cheat on you with someone else.) And my experience is that the vast majority of women I meet through work or otherwise respect the ring.

#13 Jim on 2011-09-29 14:53 (Reply)

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Jim nailed it. The one who will lie for you will sooner or later lie TO you.

#13.1 Khornet on 2011-09-29 15:47 (Reply)

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Funny that, as a Telecom engineer for forty years (stepper switches to VoIP) I stopped wearing the wedding ring early on after a couple of nasty shocks. Wife excepted it, for a few years I’d put it on when we went out but eventually got out of the habit. This last year I was laid off and six months ago lost my wife to a three day virus.
I located my wedding ring, had to get it re-sized, and now wear it constantly.
Though l am lonely I never thought about the ring in connection with keeping other women away. Maybe someday, but for now I’d rather wear the ring. I know I’ve seen men who are widowed and still wear the ring, but I don’t know how common that is.
Anyone else still wear their wedding ring after the parting?

#13.2 John the River (Link) on 2011-09-29 17:16 (Reply)