As I sometimes joke to my wife about whether I would stray or not: “Even if I had the inclination, I don’t have the energy.” Fact is, I am too busy to even think about dalliances, let alone act on them. But I also realize that could be a temptation for me, so I am careful not to get myself in temptation situations, especially with a co-worker. (Frankly, because I’m a boss that goes even beyond faithfulness reasons to realizing you could get sued and/or fired for sexual harassment if things go south.)And I am careful to wear my wedding ring at all times. I figure that the only women I would want to have a relationship with (hypothetically, if I weren’t married) would be those who would respect the ring in the first place, and those who ignore the ring aren’t women I would want to get involved with in any event. (In other words, if they are willing to ignore boundaries in order to get to you, it’s likely they will later ignore boundaries to cheat on you with someone else.) And my experience is that the vast majority of women I meet through work or otherwise respect the ring.
Funny that, as a Telecom engineer for forty years (stepper switches to VoIP) I stopped wearing the wedding ring early on after a couple of nasty shocks. Wife excepted it, for a few years I’d put it on when we went out but eventually got out of the habit. This last year I was laid off and six months ago lost my wife to a three day virus.
I located my wedding ring, had to get it re-sized, and now wear it constantly.
Though l am lonely I never thought about the ring in connection with keeping other women away. Maybe someday, but for now I’d rather wear the ring. I know I’ve seen men who are widowed and still wear the ring, but I don’t know how common that is. Anyone else still wear their wedding ring after the parting?
Forty years toiled in the Tel-com industry, married for 36 years widowed at sixty-one. New girlfriend at sixty-five. Tea Party supporter. Today a follower of the God-Emperor Donald.
Do like to kayak, cook, take photos, bike, watch old movies and read.
Throughout history, poverty is the normal condition of man.
Advances which permit this norm to be exceeded -- here and there, now and then -- are the work of an extremely small minority, frequently despised, often condemned, and almost always opposed by all right-thinking people. Whenever this tiny minority is kept from creating, or (as sometimes happens) is driven out of a society, the people then slip back into abject poverty. This is known as "bad luck." -- Robert A. Heinlein
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