I hear you.

A Reason To Live

Kim du Toit

It seems to be a fact of life that when one spouse of an elderly couple dies, it’s not long before the other dies too. I haven’t looked up any actual stats for this — it’s purely an observation — but it seems that if it’s the wife that goes first, it doesn’t take long before the widower follows. It seems especially true if the couple is truly elderly — say, in their 70s or 80s, and I believe that spousal deaths “days after” (and sometimes even “hours after”) are almost a given once a couple has reached their 90s together.

I know exactly how they feel.

A blogger I’ve known since I started a blog myself.  Much more prolific than myself and a better writer by far (in my opinion).

But one seeming difference, I started my blogging after losing my wife and he stopped blogging after losing his.  Kim is only started writing again recently.

Being arrested in his efforts by the cruel severance of their shared journey in life by death; he has continued now with the meditations on loss and the awkwardness of trying to continue an existence that only made sense by being shared.

His pain is fresh, I grieve for him.  I pray for him, if he doesn’t mind too much (he’s an atheist).

I believe that being loved by and loving someone till the end makes you stronger, firmer and not damaged.  You will carry that persons love forever.  You will never be alone.

The oddities of WordPress domain identification and logins prevent me from placing my words of condolence on Kim’s site directly,  but I wish him peace and pray for his spirit.

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About On the North River

Forty years toiled in the Tel-com industry, married for 36 years widowed at sixty-one. Tea Party supporter. Do like to kayak, cook, take photos, bike, watch old movies and read. 66 years old and have a new girlfriend!
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