Fortieth What?

Does a Wedding Anniversary stop being a anniversary when one partner is gone?

A few days before the wedding my mother, sister and their friends gave Donie a Bridal Shower.  The only picture I have of that.img040 bridal showerThat’s probably exactly forty years ago, today.  A short forty years. It’s the last three years that have been long.

Our WeddingThanks to the fire ten years ago, this is the only picture surviving of the wedding.  Under the pine trees at my parents house.  Reverend Al from Hingham.  June 21st, 1974.

Donie and the siemese cat Donie in QuincyOur second apartment in Quincy.  A determined arsonist tried three times in one night to burn it down, third time we got the hint.  Left for good that night, I moved everything we owned the next day.  For us, the fastest move on record.

Years of being poor, years of working far to many hours a week, years passing with family weddings, births, deaths and vacations.

Donie and John at Pembroke img038 InResturant together img039 NantucketThe old house, fire may have improved it.   img041 old houseDonie’s stroke that we coped with, and went on together for another 19 years.   John and Donie at Christmas

On Saturday, I think I’ll go away and have dinner by myself.  With my dear wife.

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About On the North River

Forty years toiled in the Tel-com industry, married for 36 years widowed at sixty-one. Tea Party supporter. Do like to kayak, cook, take photos, bike, watch old movies and read. 66 years old and have a new girlfriend!
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2 Responses to Fortieth What?

  1. Dan Patterson says:

    God Almighty but I am sorry for your loss. Most men I know are either made better by their marriage and feel whole because of it, or are always looking for some way out. Best to you and yours.

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